14 Most Common Sexual Fantasies To Try

Everybody has sexual fantasies. Whoever said they don't is clearly lying. Whether our fantasies are vanilla or extremely obscure there is no denying we all experience fantasies at different levels and we all have our own different things that turn us on.

Dr. Justin Lehimiller is a sex therapist and while researching for his book 'Tell Me What You Want' Dr. Lehimiller interviewed up to 4175 Americans to find out there sexual preferences and fantasies and to see if there were any emerging patterns. From his research.

 Dr. Justin Lehimiller concluded there are 14 most common fantasies most of us experience or think about in our lifetime.

So today we thought we could go through these seven, in no particular order starting with:

Three Of A Kind:

Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies in the world and other studies have shown it's one of the top three fantasies for males. Dr. Lehimiller found a massive 89% of people had fantasized about being in a threesome and of the 89% who had spouses, many of them imagined their other halves as part of the fantasy.

For males most commonly the fantasy is to have two females but the studies showed females had no real preference towards gender. The act of the threesome itself was enough.

Spanking Good Fantasy:

BDSM and bondage are one of the most common fantasies and it's not hard to see why. Many people have fantasies of being dominated or dominating themselves and this study showed up to 65% of people were into some sort of BDSM practice such as biting, spanking and hot wax. The study also showed women have a more frequent desire to be dominated.

Pain is Pleasure:

Shaking things up was a common fantasy and probably with people whose relationships have since become stale. Many people fantasise about exciting sexual encounters or just to do it with someone else.

Having sex with a different partner is a huge fantasy for people in relationships and many people also enjoy watching their own partner get intimate with someone else. This is an indication that your partner is desired and can make you desire them more, and the feeling of jealousy can be a huge aphrodisiac in the bedroom. When the taboo is involved, pain becomes pleasure.

Public Sex:

Public sex or the idea of getting caught is one of the common fantasies found. Especially with women who commonly said they fantasise about sex in public places such as the office, the park or in a lift.

Everybody has sexual fantasies. Whoever said they don't is clearly lying. Whether our fantasies are vanilla or extremely obscure there is no denying we all experience fantasies at different levels and we all have our own different things that turn us on.

Dr. Justin Lehimiller is a sex therapist and while researching for his book 'Tell Me What You Want' Dr. Lehimiller interviewed up to 4175 Americans to find out there sexual preferences and fantasies and to see if there were any emerging patterns. From his research, Dr. Justin Lehimiller concluded there are 7 common fantasies most of us experience or think about.

In our last post we talked about 4 of them, today we're finishing our list off with the last three, of the seven most common fantasies. In no particular order, let's start with:

Open Relationship:

The fantasy of an open relationship isn't as talked about considering how common it is. Many people in relationships fantasize about having an open relationship or just being with someone else as their fantasy, 79 percent of men fantasize about an open relationship and not too far behind them 62 percent of women fantasize about an open relationship. 58% of people in relationships fantasize about their partner being with another person.

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Meaningful Sex:

Despite all the fantasies we seem to have around the taboo, cheating, group sex, being with other people and domination one of the top fantasies for people is actually to have meaningful sex.

On the one hand having sex with a stranger and being completely dominated or humiliated is appealing to many of us and on the other hand, we want to feel completely valued, cared for and desired by the person we lay with.

Many people fantasize about having sex not just with their partner, but with someone who wants to do nothing but give their full attention. Meaningful sex is something we crave as some people categorize sex and making love as two completely seperate acts,

Same-Sex:

Curiously many people who consider themselves heterosexual have fantasized about sexual encounters with the same gender. Dr. Justin Lehimmer's study showed up to 59% of straight women fantasize about being with another woman and up to 26% of straight men have fantasized about another male.

This doesn't necessarily mean they're homosexual as it could just mean they're a very curious person.